“Do I still love him?” A dangerous question we do not like to face. A question we often do not like to, let alone answer. And yet it sometimes squeaks a voice in our mind: “Is that it? Is it really true? ” Suddenly we do not know anymore.
But fear not!
We get all get to do. And it really does not immediately panic if this question imposes itself to you. Do not – as it is said – the fact that you wonder if it means that things were not sitting properly. With such speed is usually not
Is there a clear, identifiable cause?
There is sometimes a very clear cause for your doubts and you do not really always with him or your relationship in general search. Go after what it already stands with yourself. Are you in a particular period? Has something happened that has brought you off balance? Do you get stressed at the moment? Does your period (do not laugh! Hormones also play an important role!) Or to which you meet someone you’re attracted to?
These are all things that can get you off balance and cause doubts. Only if the doubts persist longer time, you can (tentative) conclusions. But before you decide to make rash decisions, it’s good yourself, but the question “I still love him,” a number of other questions.
Useful questions to understand what happened to your relationship stands are:
I think it is (still) good to be with him?
I look (still) looking forward to see him?
I feel (yet) to the future with him?
I (still) trust in him?
When I make plans, he is usually included?
(If you have these questions with ‘yes’, it’s okay. If you ask many “no” answers, there is nothing going on but it is time to take a deep thinking).
And if you’ve met someone else, which you are attracted:
Why are you attracted to this man? Is it purely physical or there are other things involved?
It is normal that after some time, not as in love as in the beginning. If you’re a long time together, it is inevitable that a rhythm – call “the rut” if you want – occurs. But that does not necessarily mean that you are no longer together. Some valuable advice:
Talk and be open to each other still remains the basis for an intense, long and valuable relationship. Talk to him about why if the doubts persist.
Do not take hasty decisions about whether or not included, but take your time to good things to think about.
Take this time to have no irreversible or important decisions concerning your relationship (cohabitation, marriage, children, buying a house together). If they insist, tell them in a very quiet way – no panic – that you need some more time.
As for the other guy to which you are suddenly attracted … If you experience such a positive way can bring in your relationship, then this just something special (extra spicy) add. It is suddenly exciting again and the doubts disappear like snow in the sun! If it does not, it may be a sign that more is going on.